I’m sure that at least once in our lives we have all said, or heard someone else say “I wish I was that person!” or signed into Facebook wishing we were also in the sunny Maldives sipping on cocktails just like [so and so..]. 🍹
Let’s be honest, I know I have!😅
With social media taking such a big place in today’s society, its so easy to get into the negative rut of comparing ourselves to others lives, while forgetting all that we should be thankful for in our own lives.
Gratitude is being thankful for what you have. Its importance among virtues is often under recognised. Gratitude has the power to rewire your thoughts, improve your well-being and bring an abundance of joy into your life. In a study by Emmons & McCullough, (2003), practicing gratitude was found to improve well-being and relationships.
Gratitude works to amplify the law of attraction. The happier and grateful we are, the more the universe will bring to us. Expressing gratitude is a great way of connecting to our higher selves and the divine. As the great philosopher Meister Eckhart once said, “If the only prayer you said in your whole life was, thank you, that would suffice”.
If it seems simple enough why aren’t we showing more gratitude during our daily lives and focusing on what we have, rather than what we don’t have? The human brain is wired to problem solve. We constantly scan the environment for problems and avoid situations that will bring us pain or grief. We also tend to recall the negative situations more vividly than positive ones. An interesting journal article by Baumeister et al (2001), spoke of the evolutionary importance of focusing more on negative situations and events around us, in order to avoid negative threats in our environment, which acted as a survival strategy.
It’s no wonder we can easily forget to be grateful! This just means that we have to try a little harder to remind ourselves to be grateful. Like they say, the more you practice it, the easier it will become over time. It will become so automatic that you won’t even have to think about it anymore. Gratitude has the power to transform your life. You’ll have an ability to look at life through brighter colours, find joy, strength and blessings in your life, even during difficult times. You will also notice that life starts bringing you more, and more things to be grateful for. ✨
Here’s a few ways of how to practice gratitude! Love Sonia, xox
Keep a gratitude journal. You can keep it simple as you like. Try the exercise of listing 3 things you are grateful for, every day. If you’re not keen on writing, thanks to technology there are so many gratitude apps out there!
Say a heartfelt thank you at the end of each day. This can be in the form of a prayer to a higher power, or it doesn’t have to be spiritual at all. Close your eyes and take a few moments at the end of the day to appreciate anything that you were grateful for and say thank you in your mind or out loud if you are able to.
Remind someone in your life of how grateful you are to have them. If someone has made you smile, given you complements or supported you through hardships, tell them how much you appreciate them in your life. It’s also a good way to send love and create good karma. What you give out is what you get in return too.
Write a loving letter towards yourself. Sometimes we are so busy looking outward for things that make us happy, we forget to take a look inside at ourselves and what we are grateful for. Tell yourself how grateful you are for your choices and the experiences, both good and bad that have shaped the person you are today. Thank your body for letting you have these experiences.
Try some volunteer work. Not only does volunteering have a positive impact on others, but it can also help us by changing the whole perspective we have towards our own lives. It teaches us to be grateful for things in our lives, which others may not be so fortunate to have.
Baumeister, R. F., Bratslavsky, E., Finkenauer, C. & Vohs, K. D. (2001). Bad is stronger than good. Review of General Psychology, 5, 323-370.
Emmons, R. A. & McCullough, M. E. (2003). Counting blessings versus burdens: An experimental investigation of gratitude and subjective well-being in daily life. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 84, 377-389.